A win or a “non-loss” are the same— if you only look at the result. It may seem trivial given the results-focused world of competition, but that’s far from the truth. The underlying mindset of each, playing to Win (Growth Mindset) or Non-loss determines the arc of development, how far you rise and, believe it or not, how much you find joy along the way.
Performance from a non-loss mindset puts loss in the primary position. This denies the fact that every event starts at the beginning, and no one has anything to lose. You only have something to gain. Points, runs, or goals—you start at zero and go from there. Even in events where performance is penalized, you have a chance to earn all the points.
Centering on “non-loss” focuses on what you don’t want. Losing connects to powerful emotions—all with a negative valence. Fear, anxiety, worry, and desperation don’t provide the best headspace for executing, noticing, problem-solving, and reflecting. Performing well is challenging enough, and negative emotions piling on becomes just another obstacle.
Even deeper, a “non-loss” mindset operates from a position of vulnerability because your sense of self is tied significantly to the result. This is the danger of having only one goal, only one outcome that will reflect who you are. The problem with this mindset is, even if you win, you are back to…
Nothing.
With a “Growth Mindset” there are many ways to experience a “win.” Since the mindset in this case is a process, every step in the journey has value. Every choice and action connect to what you are striving for. You can get better and still lose. You can meet several performance goals and still lose. You can play less than your best and still win. All because the entire event offers the opportunity to earn and grow in many different ways.
The connection to the developmental arc reveals the difference. Focusing on improvement rather than losing makes practice and play “feel” different. Because it is. Like the saying says, “It pays off in the long run.”
Lastly, a “non-loss” approach diminishes the feeling of enjoyment during the event. Fun is an aspect of freedom, so how you experience challenge matters. With a non-loss perspective, fun isn’t around much. And it’s very black and white. The fun may come at the end with a win but the feeling/state leaves by the next practice.
Not true for a Growth Mindset. You always have something to look forward to because it’s a process and a journey you enjoy.
This represents a very underrated concept that’s rarely mentioned. Each developmental milestone offers challenges that some won’t find “fun” or enjoyable. What some say is “hard work” others will find exciting and rewarding. If you can’t find joy and freedom in pushing your limits, chances are you’ll grow tired of the process. That’s the other side of, “it pays off in the long run.” Because there’s always a price to pay to make the long run.
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